what you’re going through, Is enough to tear an individual apart inside, there is no scale to what is or isn’t a big issue, certain people can handle more than others and that’s the way we are born, the way our genes work. Try using lackey bands, you can wear then around your wrist, when you snap then on your wrist it has the same effect as self harm without the scars or the risk of bleeding out, or squeezing ice in your hands. Apparently if you put salt on your skin then hold ice over it, there is a chemical reaction that gives you an Ice burn, that’s supposed to have the same effect but all these methods can leave red marks and posibly bruises but they are better than self harm. You can do these things in moderation while you try to stop self harming/stop feeling the need to self harm. As for your family problems you should talk to someone, a trusted adult or councilor, we can’t always do it alone. Maybe talk to this person you think you’re in love with, Maybe they feel the same way, maybe try to build up your friendship even further. Make them conciser weather they want to be with you or not, when you think the time is right you can ask them? they might want you just as much. Good luck 

WELCOME TO MY WORLD (that probably wasn’t helpful) 
I know exactly how you feel, honestly I don’t think I’ve ever been in love but in my mind I see it as, when you can’t live without someone, It’s almost a mutual obsession, a mixture of lust/appearance and personality, Like a best friend that you can’t live without, that you’re just as attracted to in a physical way? this is by understanding of love, you almost partner up with someone, I also do not believe that this can be experienced at such a young age (such as teenagers) I don’t believe you can fall in love at any age while you’re in high school, because I don’t think we’ve quite grasped the idea of love, what it feels like, what it is, how to express it…

I believe that If you’re in love you don’t have to question it, you’d be completely sure of it, you’d care about the person more than you’d care about yourself and I believe that You would know beyond a doubt that you love them, as for letting go, If you feel that you no longer care for them, maybe the things they do will start to annoy you or you’ll not feel the need to be around them or the desire to touch them, you’ll lose all physical attraction and you’ll no longer feel the need to gain their attention, they maybe you need to question where you really stand.

You said you need to “do something” about feeling something for your best friend, why don’t you ask them if they feel the same way? If you want to get over them honestly the easiest way is to cut them out of your life completely, that is the easiest way, to cut all contact and forget the connection and it will fade, If you’re like me and you need this person as a friend, you need them around, and you’re willing to ignore your emotions, If you’re willing to endure that then by all means that is always an option, but It’s a painful option, There is a middle point, You can spend less time with them or stop being as close for a while and let your emotions die out but If you don’t want to ignore it or let it fade and you’re actually wanting for it to go somewhere then try to send little hints, maybe dress to catch their eye (don’t dress like a slut) Spend more time with them, make your connection stronger, make them wonder If they want to be with you as well, show them what it would be like if you were, Maybe when you feel the time is right, ask them? For all you know they might be feeling exactly the same way you do? I wish you the best of luck I really do <3

 

Why don’t you ask her? That seems the easiest way, sit down with her and have a conversation, make sure everything is said and figure out where she stands and make a decision from there, that seems the most logical answer, does it not? 

I don’t know what to say to this  

I suppose that’s one way of looking at it

Then why am I afraid to go to school everyday? Afraid that I’ll be picked on and yelled at? I’m no different than any of you, I just wish I had someone to talk to when I first started, now I do, the problems haven’t stopped, they might never stop but now I’ve got people to help me through it, People like you are my hero’s you’re struggling through the world, sure we let the world knock us down but we get back up and keep fighting because that’s what makes us strong, we don’t give up.

I get bullied, I fall apart sometimes, that’s okay I get back up and keep going, I love reading books and eating popcorn, being around people, I might not be talented or much of anything but I’m not going to let anyone stop me from being myself, I believe everyone deserves that much at least, To be themselves?

teenage helplines in the UK (most popular);


childline.org.uk - 0800 11 11 (Free)

getconnected.org.uk - 0808 808 4994 (Free)

supportline.org.uk - 01708 765200 

meiccymru.org - 080880 23456 (Free)

Sometimes It’s not as blunt as people think, we’re not asking for attention we’re silently crying out for help, we want people to know that we’re serious and we really want someone to hold us and tell us everything will be okay, I honestly can’t relate to you because I do my best to hide any scars I have but I understand what you’re going through, you’re not alone in this, allot of people use it as a way of coping and don’t bother hiding it because It’s the same reason why you’d allow yourself to cry in front of people, Because you’re slightly asking for someone to ask if you’re okay, because all you need is that question “Are you okay” and you’ll tell your life story to anyone who will listen because you’re that close to falling apart you just need someone to listen, to tell you everything will be fine

You are not an attention seeker you just need a little help, we can’t always do it alone, You are not alone

You are special, you think no one cares but If you go through with this, you’ll be the cause of the tears, throughout your family, weather you thought they cared or not, the people were you work/study will wonder If there was something they could have done, I’ll be wondering If there was something I could have done, you’re someone I’d gladly be friends with, I’m not bluffing, If you stop yourself tonight, I promise we will be friends, I’ll give you a reason to stay alive, we can be pen pals, I’ll send you letters and chocolate, I’ll sing you songs and make you laugh till you hurt, I wish I could call an ambulance and force the doctors to pump your stomach so I’d know that I’ve done something, contributed to the world because there isn’t a shred of good in losing someone as amazing as you, If your body miraculously fights off the medication and tomorrow you wake up, please message me, I’ll call you or we can talk on a social network of some kind, I’ll do anything I can but please don’t take your life, I’m begging you, you’re so much more valuable than you realize   

Please, don’t do this, you’re someone worth remembering, you’re intelligent, I can see that because you spell correctly and don’t use text talk in your writing, you’re polite and grateful, you’re sweet and Honestly we need more people like that, every time we lose somone as amazing as you the world gets worse for the next person in line, we’re better than this, we’re to young to let this world destroy us!

Please throw them back up! don’t do this, please come off anon and talk to me properly, give me that at least!?

I’d love to get to know you better, we can be skype buddies, we can send eachother themes and send each other weird asks, Don’t do this, There is so much you haven’t seen, there is a better side to the world, I’ll show you, If you’ll let me?

Sweety I think you should tell your parents, Maybe you need to talk to someone about what’s going on, sometimes you can’t handle the things going on in your life by yourself, It’s okay to ask for help, everyone needs help sometimes, I’d rather you have an awkward conversation with your parents then hear that It’s gotten worse and you might be contemplating harmful things, you need to let your guard down for a little while in order to get things back to the way they were, there are always people willing to help, everyone deserves to be able to smile, figure out what’s got you so sad and see If you can solve the problem or avoid it, If it doesn’t have to involve you, don’t continue being around the problem and If It’s a person, even though you might care about them If they are making you feel this way, for your own good you need to cut them out of your life, If you can’t figure out how to improve the situation you really should talk to a trusted adult or parent, no one deserves to feel the way you do beautiful <3 

If a post doesn’t have a name on it then It’s mine (Aleisha) If it does than It’s someone else (one of my friends that I’ve trusted to help out) If you don’t want your questions answered by one of my friends just say so in your message or address it to me 

whats pushing you so far??? there must be something. talk to me about what making you feel like this. i wanna hold you until its all better and help you get through this, just talk to me. i know what its like to be on the edge and all i wanted was for someone to hug me and let me vent. so vent to me and we can have internet cuddles.

abby xx

well cutting up your arm in’t a solution. this is a very addictive thing cutting, trust me i know. You might want to do it again but flick elastic bands on your wrists or squeeze ice so this isn’t someting you rely on so easily, its not something you want to get into. With your guy best friends talk to him about ditching you and try to organise day on the weekend or after school to hang out, or spen some time with the girls you introduced him too. With your friend and the guy, you really need to talk to her about this. I can’t stress this fact enough. I have made the mistake of ignoring it, and now i have nearly completley lost one my best friedn. Tell her that you feel like she is ditching you for this guy adn you miss spending time with her. If she still doesn’t get it, make sure she knows you need her to keep you stable in your life. make sure they both know you need them in your life. i hope everything gets better for you sweetie.

abby xx